Conditioned to feel ashamed

We live in a society where we are conditioned to feel ashamed of ourselves.

Do not fall into the trap,

Never be ashamed of any decision you make,

No matter how many people tell you how wrong you are.

Be proud of your decision,

Learn from it and don't repeat it.

Or do.

It’s all up to you,

These are your choices to make,

This is your life to live.

It's ok to repeat our mistakes

It’s ok to make the same decisions,

We all move at our own pace.

Take your time.

Chill, laugh and be kind.

You don't have any problems.

You don't have any problems.

You don't have any problems,

It’s everyone else who has problems with you.

Because people are judgemental,

Because people think that their way is right.

Some people are not tolerant of others,

Some people mock others for not being a certain way,

Just as they were mocked for not being a certain way in their own past.

Many people may think they are better than others,

So they mock each other,

They attack each other,

They create problems for others because others created problems for them,

It’s a vicious cycle.

Imagine you are 30 years old, never having seen the outside world,

One day, you decided to go outside with a t-shit made for children, with unwashed hair, and no shoes.

Someone mocks you for it.

Someone creates a problem for you,

Even though you never had problems before,

No one ever gave you trouble for the way you are,

But suddenly, you are being mocked,

Suddenly, because others have problems with you, you now have problems with yourself.

Their reality of the world starts to affect you,

You accept their criticism as your own problem,

It was the others who created the problem for you,

Now that created problem is stuck in your mind.

You don't have any problems with yourself,

but some people have problems with you.

It’s up to you to not let others make up problems that you don’t have.

There is no one to blame...

There is no one to blame,

Not even yourself,

Not even others.

We are just a product of society,

a product of a chain of events that brought us here.

Had person A not done this, we would be elsewhere.

Had we done this, person B would be doing this.

No one is to blame.

We do things based on our past,

We do things based on our experiences,

We do things based on our perception of the moment.

We do things based on actions we have no control over.

It’s impossible for any action to be blamed on by anyone,

We are a complex web of actions and reactions,

All affecting each other every second of the day,

Without knowing what our actions do in the greater scheme of things.

So whatever happens,

Blame no one,

Because there is no one to blame.

Do not trust your negative thoughts and feelings

I know not from whence they came, but they are not a part of the original you.

Don’t listen to your negative feelings,

They are there just to hurt you.

Do not let them hurt you,

Be the bigger person,

Negativity feeds off the pain that you have,.

Do not be hurt by your negative thoughts,

Do not show them that you are hurting,

Laugh when they try to hurt you,

Show them that you are not afraid.

Never succumb to their negativity,

They are not part of you.

Your negative feelings are not the true you.

Accept the unanswerable

Sometimes there are no answers,

Sometimes answers come with time,

Sometimes the answers can change,

Sometimes there are many answers to the same question,

And that's ok.

The sooner you accept that sometimes there are some things in this world that are unanswerable,

The sooner you will feel better about not having an answer,

The act of searching for the answers,

The actual journey to the answer,

The places it took you during the search,

The experiences you received from the search,

Can be the answer in itself.

Bask in the knowledge that we may know nothing,

It can makes life all the more interesting.

All answers are based on perception,

Know that your answers are not the same as others,

Be happy with your perception of your own answer,

Be happy your perception that their is no answer.

The journey of finding the answer...

may be just as important, if not more, than the answer itself...

Stop doing the things you enjoy

Stop doing the things you enjoy,

So you can start enjoying the things you don't.

If you stop from doing the things that you enjoy,

You may start appreciating the things that you didn't enjoy in the past.

When you enjoy these things, stop them too, so you can enjoy everything else.

In the end, you will be able to enjoy everything life has to offer.

Life is a learning process

If you ever feel angry,

If you ever feel sad,

If you ever feel guilt,

If you ever feel jealous,

If you ever feel frustration,

If you feel bad about anything of the above,

it's OK.

Use it as a lesson for the future.

Life is a learning process.

Life is like a school,

Life is a learning process,

Life is about getting your hands dirty,

Life is about learning,

Life is an experience,

Get as much out of life as you possibly can,

Live life like the next second won't exist.

It's ok if you fall and falter,

It's ok if you feel like you are not doing well,

It's ok if you are lost and confused,

It's ok if you feel like you are all alone.

You are not failing,

There is no competition,

There is no reward,

You are your own reward.

So grab your reward,

Use your reward to experience what you want to experience.

Life is what you make of it,

You can make a sandwich, a cake or a pizza,

Depending on the ingredients given to you,

There will be no other creation quite the same as your own creation,

So make the best creation that you can make,

Because the recipient of that creation is you,

And you are the most important person in your universe.

Time Will Tell

No matter what we think,

No matter what we do,

No matter the secrets,

No matter the lies,

Time will tell.

Time will always tell all.

Teach your inner demons

Do not try to kill or cast out your inner demons,

Teach them to be kind.

Teach your negative thoughts,

Teach your negative voices,

Think of them as your child.

Teach them the goodness of life,

Teach them to not hurt you,

Teach them to not hurt others,

Teach them to not hurt themselves.

Whenever they do something negative,

Tell them why not to do it,

Tell them that they are wrong,

Tell them that it is your mind, and they must respect your rules.

Teach them to be kind to you, yourself, to others, to themselves,

Teach them negativity may give them temporary happiness,

But won't do anything to gain everlasting happiness.

Always show them patience.

Never hurt your negative feelings and voices,

Don’t do unto them as they do unto you.

When they do try to hurt you,

Do not listen to them.

They are there just to hurt you,

Do not let them hurt you

Be the bigger person.

Negative feelings are childish,

They feed off the pain that you give them.

Do not be hurt by your negative thoughts,

Do not show them that you are hurting.

Laugh when they try to hurt you,

Show them that you are not afraid.

Never succumb to their negativity,

They are not part of you

Teach them the good of life through your words and actions.

Your negative feelings are not the true you,

Teach them to be like you.

Do not trust your negative thoughts and feelings,

I know not from whence they came, but they are not a part of the original you.

If they have the power to bring you down now,

Imagine the power they will have to bring you up,

When they themselves have learned to be kind.

You do you...

You do you.

Life your life the way you want,

do the things you want,

eat, drink, socialise with whomever you want,

it's your life.

You never asked to be born,

you are a tourist in this life,

so explore it.

Go do all the experiences life has to offer,

you are your own judge,

you decide what is right or wrong,

no one else can decide it for you.

Take the risk,

or don't.

Explore new worlds,

or don't.

Don't be afraid, fear is only an illusion.

You do you,

Because,

There is nothing better than you.

Internal happiness is eternal.

xternal happiness is temporary,

internal happiness is eternal.

Happiness found from outside sources won’t last forever.

Happiness found within yourself will last forever.

Happiness can be found from many different sources,

Sometimes those sources can disappear,

Sometimes those sources change,

Sometimes those sources can become a bore.

The happiness you find in yourself will always be in you,

No one will be able to take it away,

No one will be able to change it.

Internal happiness is always in you,

No matter where you are,

No matter what you are doing,

It’s always present.

To find internal happiness,

You must accept yourself,

You must accept your surroundings,

You must be content with what you have,

You must accept with what you may lose.

Imagine yourself in the worst possible situation,

Learn to be happy with that situation,

Count the blessings that you do have,

Your family,

Your friends,

Your health,

Your entertainment.

Knowing it all may disappear one day,

Knowing that if it does, you will be ok,

Knowing that all we really need in life are the basic necessities,

Nourishment,

Shelter.

Everything else is a bonus,

A bonus you can take your time to obtain.

In the end,

We only have ourselves to love,

We only have ourselves to hate,

So be kind to yourself.